賢いスマートな人は絶対使わない 会話の9つのフレーズ byトラヴィス・ブラッドベリー博士

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1.『あ、その顔、きみなんか疲れてるんじゃない?』

 

疲れている人は信じられないほど魅力がありませんね。

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まぶたが腫れ、髪の毛ボサボサ、集中力を欠き、きげんの悪そうなスネたような態度です。(本人はまったくそんな外見になってることを気づきません)

それを見たときそれをそのままなぞってはオシマイなのです!

これを聞いた彼の態度は悪くなる一方、ますますふてくされあなたに対するダメージは大きくなること必至です。

 

 

2.『わおぉ、きみ1トンくらいやせたんじゃない!!?』

 

 

ちょっと見ない間にスリムになった彼女/彼に驚き、喜ばせようとつい大げさにほめてみましたが、結果は逆効果です。

誰でも一度はこのような場面に遭遇するので痛い思いしたくなかったらことばに気をつけましょう。

 

 

3.『きみは彼女に優しくしすぎたんだよ』

 

 

破局した友人にこう言ってしまっては、きみは女性の選び方をまちがったのだ、きみにはまったくセンスがないんだねえ、と暗にほのめかすことになり、慰めにならないばかりか相手を撃沈させてしまいます。

 

 

4.『きみっていつも..するんだよねえ』もしくは『きみって絶対...しないんだよねえ』

 

 

他人から定義づけされることほどよけいなお世話はないです。

これを言われ続けると相手はどんどん閉じて行ってあなたに対して貝のように口を閉ざし最後には何も話さなくなるでしょう。

 

 

5.『年のわりにクールでかっこいいんですねえ!!』

 

 

むしろこれは完全に侮辱です。

 

 

6.『まえにもきみに言ったと思うんだが...』

 

 

人はだれでも時間がたつにつれていろんなことを忘れてしまいます。

この前置きで話されるといや~な感じがして相手を憎み始めます。

 

 

7.『グッドラック!(がんばれよ)』

 

 

超ポピュラーなこのフレーズ。

でも運がなければ失敗しそうにも聞こえます、

いがいとぎゃくに落ち込ませてしまったりするのです。

 

 

8.『きみの好きなように』『きみにまかせるよ』

 

 

あなたの意見を聞きたくて思い切って質問したのにこの返事ほど無関心さがただよいがっかりするものはありません。

 

 

9.『普通だったらおれこんなへましないんだけど..』

 

 

この言葉は相手に言い訳をしてることになりあなたの弱さを強調します。自分の心のなかの言葉で終わらせましょう。

 

 

 

トラヴィス・ブラッドベリー博士の出したエモーショナルインテリジェンス2.0はベストセラーのNO1になり博士も賞をとりました。25言語に翻訳され150カ国で読まれています。

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